Whether it's your mate, your child, your boss, or a co-worker, if they know how to get the better of you and look good at the same time, you are being skillfully manipulated. To stop being a victim, you have to know how to spot these "wolves in sheep's clothing." Using case studies, Dr. Simon reveals the tactics manipulators like to use and tells you how to respond to them.
Whether it's your mate, your child, your boss, or a co-worker, if they know how to get the better of you and look good at the same time, you are being skillfully manipulated. To stop being a victim, you have to know how to spot these "wolves in sheep's clothing." Using case studies, Dr. Simon reveals the tactics manipulators like to use and tells you how to respond to them.
It's easy to identify rage in people who lose their temper at traffic jams, unruly children, unresponsive coworkers, and unrealistic bosses. But we may not recognize more subtle manifestations of anger, such as being uncomfortable with loose ends, acting impatiently, or being overly critical. That is anger, too. And, as is so often the case, angry folks don't seem to realize that the behavior causing them problems at home or at work actually stems from unrecognized and unresolved pain and emotional injuries from the past. Is all this negative emotion inevitable, or are there choices about how to respond, choices that can improve personal relationships as well as emotional health? The Anger Trap is a landmark book that strips away the myths and misconceptions about anger and reveals how you can learn to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy anger so that you may choose-- or help someone else to choose-- a better, more spiritually enlightened path. The Anger Trap examines the root causes of anger and can help you realize your patterns and break the destructive cycles of criticism, frustration, and irritation that hurt you and others around you. Drawing insight from timeless spiritual wisdom as well as cutting-edge research, Dr. Carter offers practical techniques to free you from anger, its hidden insecurities, fears, and selfishness and thereby improve the quality of your home and workplace life. The book clearly illustrates how the change process works and The Anger Trap is filled with real-life examples of the ways people have come to terms with their anger by applying the concepts Dr. Carter outlines.
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For the last three decades, Dr. Redford Williams has been at the forefront of research in behavioral medicine. The New York Times has described him as an authority -widely acknowledged as the guru of anger management.+ Drawing on his groundbreaking research, he and his wife and coauthor, Dr. Virginia Williams, wrote Anger Kills, the bestselling book that is regarded as the seminal work on the potent effects negative emotions have on the body.Now these renowned self-help experts have taken their strategies to a new level with this easy-to-follow program that teaches readers how to handle all types of situations, from overbearing colleagues to a lack of communication at home to irritating situations like delayed flights.Remarkably, this book+s program works equally for -hot reactors,+ who have a tendency to blow up when things don+t go their way, and -cool reactors,+ who are more likely to swallow their emotions. Hot reactors will learn to stop and think before their anger explodes, and cool reactors will learn how to acknowledge their emotions and assert themselves-leading both to be more in control of their lives.
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Neuroscientists have discovered that getting the heart into a positive rhythm can send a signal to the brain, allowing the two to synchronize and transform anger, frustration, and irritation into compassion, empathy, and calm. Transforming Anger shows readers how thoughts and feelings get stored in the nervous system and create cellular triggers of anger. In order to get beyond the mechanical negative pull of their triggers, readers learn to control their heart rhythms through a "freeze-frame" technique that allows them to clearly see their options for dealing with anger. Readers learn how to turn their emotional deficits into assets; build personal strengths; depersonalize actions of others; and identify resistance to change.
The fun and easy way to get anger under control
These days, anger is all the rage: 80 percent of drivers have been involved in road rage incidents, 65 percent of office workers have experienced office rage, and the FAA reported a 400 percent increase in air rage incidents between 1997 and 2000. This friendly guide explains how to disengage from rage-and deal with anger constructively. Written for people with anger problems and their loved ones, the book shows how to analyze anger triggers, helps people understand what they're feeling and what they're doing during angry outbursts, and explores the effects of anger on families, coworkers, and health. Packed with illuminating case histories, it details a host of practical, proven techniques for thwarting anger, dealing with angry feelings, and forgiving.
W. Doyle Gentry, PhD (Lynchburg, VA) is a distinguished Fellow in the American Psychological Association and the Founding Editor of the Journal of Behavioral Medicine. His previous books include Anger-Free: Ten Basic Steps to Managing Your Anger (0-688-17587-2) and When Someone You Love Is Angry (0-425-19811-1).
